Did You See The "Mommy Bloggers" On The Today Show?

Yes, with air quotes.

If you haven’t seen the video yet, go watch it before reading further.

So what are my thoughts on it? Well, it was OK. The taped segment with Mir, Kristen and Jill was a good segment, although I felt like something was missing. In talking with Mir and Kristen on Twitter, I learned that the topic of community was brought up more in that interview, but was edited out, along with the sentiment that much of what we blog can be seen as a love letter to our children. It seems that Today wanted to focus more on the financial and moral aspects of being a mommyblogger this time.

Each of these issues has been featured on mainstream media before. Good Morning America spoke with Susan Wagner about making money online, and who can forget the Today Show feature on cocktail playdates. This time, questions seemed to be focused on the effect of corporate America’s new attention towards mom bloggers and issues of privacy in blogging about our children and families.

Mir, Kristen and Jill couldn’t have done a better job with the questions they were given. Kristen’s infamous duck came back to haunt her, but at no point in the interview did any of them look uncomfortable with the discussion.

Following that taped segment, Kathie Lee Gifford then did a live interview with Heather Armstrong (aka Dooce). Again, Heather did a great job with the questions she was given, but I felt the interview was doomed from the start when Kathie Lee said that she didn’t understand computers. Soon it was clear that Heather was being put on the defensive because she writes about personal issues in a forum where anyone can read.

At one point Kathie Lee said, “You seem like a lovely lady….BUT…” and while the “but” was sugar coated, the underlying message was that she disapproved of Heather posting intimate details and pictures of her daughter on the internet. Before Heather had a chance to answer, she was cut off for an introduction to the next segment. (And let’s not even get started on how Kathie Lee talked about her kids on TV on a near daily basis when she was with Regis. How is that different?)

I wondered what the Today Show expected its viewers to take away from this segment. Did they want them all to rush out and start mommy blogs, because clearly there was money to be made from it? Or were they trying to caution moms against exploiting their children and opening them up to stalkers by blogging about them? The messages seemed contradictory to me, not unlike the old dichotomy of “Women should have equal rights! Get out there and work! Oh wait, you’re going to be a mom? How can you abandon your child by working? You should be at home!”

I’m already tired of the privacy concerns thrown at mom bloggers. Do you seriously think that we didn’t consider privacy when we first blogged about our children? Yes, anyone can come by and see pictures of my daughters. But any stranger could also see them (live! and in person!) if we were walking down the street, shopping at the grocery store, visiting an amusement park, etc. Stalkers aren’t exclusive to the internet – they live in communities, too. And it’s not like all of the internet comes past my blog daily. The handful of visitors I get here each week is less than the number of people who would see them if we went to a concert.

As for the issue of future embarrassment over what I write about them, I also have thought about that topic. As the girls get older, I will give them more privacy, and stop the minute they ask me to. I already blog less about Cordy’s daily life than when she was younger. I have limits on what topics I’ll blog about – for example, I’ve said Cordy is not potty trained, but you won’t be reading the finer details of how potty training is going. And really, they’re going to be embarrassed by me for far more relevant reasons when they’re teens – this is minor compared to your average teenage angst topics.

There will always be aspects of my daughters that readers will never know about. Some of it I can’t find words for, and other parts I selfishly hold close. I love sharing my story – and as a result, their stories – with those who come into my blogosphere, but some of their unique characteristics are just for me and those who are close to us to share. No matter how much you read about them, I guarantee you that you would still be surprised about aspects of their personalities were you to meet them in person. The same could be said about me, or most any other blogger, I’d imagine.

While the entire segment wasn’t a train wreck, it still lacked a lot of information. I’m saddened that the entire aspect of community was glossed over. Listen, I doubt there are many moms out there who start blogging because they want to make a ton of money, gain power with corporations, or find new ways to exploit their kids and guarantee future embarrassment. Most of us do it for the community. We seek out other moms who we can identify with, sharing our stories, gaining knowledge from those who have been through what we’re going through, or just providing support for others when they need it.

There aren’t a lot of new moms in my neighborhood. And most people here keep to themselves, so making mom friends isn’t easy. But I can count several moms that I met online as friends. We may not live in the same state, and we may have never met in person, but we have a common experience that ties us together.

I wrote in the comments of another blog yesterday that if I was forced to give up blogging tomorrow – completely quit posting, reading, commenting, everything – I might miss the product promotions and giveaways, and I might miss the little bit of ad revenue I make each month. But not being able to participate in the community, to laugh and cry and commiserate along with friends – friends I made not because we live in the same area, are in the same socioeconomic group, or look similar, but friends I made because of our words alone – would be devastating to me.

You’re all my people. My community. That’s why I keep doing this. And I hope that my daughters will someday read these ramblings and have a new appreciation and understanding of their mother, along with an account of days they can’t remember. The money, the trips? All icing on an already tasty cake. Yummy, but superfluous.

Kathie Lee? You don’t know what you’re missing.



I’m Sassy, Hot, and I Make People Smile

Maybe I should tape that title to my mirror and repeat each morning?

I’m so lousy at blog housekeeping (just like real life housekeeping!) that I forgot to mention that I’ve been given some awards and nominations!

First, Karen decided to announce to the world that I’m sassy:


Geez, Karen, it was a big secret. Now everyone knows I’m sassy! Next thing you know, people will expect me to be witty, too.

As is the custom, I must pass the award on to other deserving bloggers. I’d like to give this one to Lotus, Dana, and Motherbumper. Thank you, Karen!

And then, Mayberry Mom confessed that Jennifer and I make her smile for hosting Haiku Friday:


Awww…you make me smile, too. And keep those haiku coming! Besides Mayberry, there are lots of folks who make me smile, but today I’m going to honor some of the local ladies: Julie, Laura, and Kristi.

I chose Laura and Kristi because whenever we go out for our once-a-month Ladies Night get together, I always leave happy and refreshed and wishing I could spend more time with them (and everyone else – I’m not forgetting you, Chris and Emily!). And I picked Julie because her son is so adorable I want to eat him up, and her crafts are stunningly beautiful. Go see the apron she made recently and marvel at the bazillion french knots.

Thanks, Mayberry – I’m glad you like this little haiku day Jennifer and I came up with.

Speaking of Jennifer, this crazy woman nominated me for two Blogger’s Choice Awards categories awhile back:

My site was nominated for Best Parenting Blog!

My site was nominated for Hottest Mommy Blogger!

I know I don’t stand a chance next to the other fabulous (and hot) mommybloggers out there, but if you’d care to vote for me so I’m not sitting at 0 votes, I certainly wouldn’t object. And be sure to go vote for Jennifer, too. (Thanks, Jennifer!)

Finally, sometime around 6:45pm Eastern time, focus all of your calming energy my direction, would you? Tonight is my performance exam for one of my nursing classes, and I’m already starting to shake from nerves. This is one of those “perform the skill perfectly or you automatically fail out of the program” kind of things, so you can understand why I might be a little jittery.

Edited to add: I passed! Thanks for your well wishes!



Haiku Friday: Blogger Baby Boom

2007
was only the start of a
blogging baby boom

Lots of new preggos
Is it catching? Then pass me
my birth control, please.

Apparently 2008 is the year of the baby here in the blog world. Is it a virus, spreading blog to blog? Is it contagious? With each new pregnancy announcement, I start to sweat a little, wondering if a second form of birth control should be added to the regimen. Can’t be too careful, right? I mean, my two girls are adorable, but the thought of a third one right now makes me nauseous.

So to all of you pregnant bloggers out there – I love you, I’m excited for you, and I will keep reading (and I want you to come visit me, too), but keep your maternity cooties to yourself, OK?

To play along for Haiku Friday, follow these steps:

1. Write your own haiku on your blog. You can do one or many, all following a theme or just random. What’s a haiku, you ask? Click here.

2. Sign the Mister Linky below or at Jennifer’s blog with your name and the link to your haiku post (the specific post URL, not your generic blog URL). If you need help with this, contact Jennifer or myself.

3. Pick up a Haiku Friday button to display on the post or in your sidebar by clicking the button above.



Where’s Your Umbrella? It’s Shower Time!





One of the best things about the mommyblogger community is being able to virtually celebrate when we all can’t be together in person. I remember the baby shower thrown and attended by some wonderful bloggers out there for me, Liz, and Tammie.

And so now it’s time for another baby shower. Julie (mothergoosemouse) is due to have her third (!) baby very soon, and unlike the first two, she’s having a boy this time. Her shower hostesses are asking everyone to come celebrate and give Julie some advice on raising boys.

Sadly, I have little advice. I am the mom of two girls. I was an only child to a single mom. My close family growing up consisted of a grandmother, two aunts, and one great aunt. So as you can see, I don’t have a lot of experience with boys. The only male I’ve ever lived with is my husband.

(Geez, it sounds like I was raised in a convent. Not true! I knew of boys! I just kept my distance. You know…cooties and all.)

But from what I know of Julie, her girls aren’t exactly being raised as the next Disney Princesses with pinky fingers up while drinking their tea. They are rough and tumble as much as they are girly. Maybe more rough and tumble, even.

So I think the best advice I can give Julie is this: keep doing what you’re doing. You already have two great kids, and I’m sure a boy won’t be a challenge for you at all. You’ll let him play with dolls as much as he does with dump trucks. And sure, his plumbing might be more related to a fire hose, but any mom of a girl knows that girls are just as capable of peeing all over you during a diaper change.

No worries, hon – you’re going to do just fine. And seeing how I have no knowledge of boys at all, I’ll add: better you than me.

Anyone have any better advice for Julie?



I’m Waving At You. How About You Wave Back?

Apparently today is a delurking day – one of those days where those of us who are out here writing all the time ask you to show yourself.

Bloggers love comments. We have to, or we’d be writing in little paper journals kept in our desks. Feedback is nourishment to us.

So just for this one day, leave me a comment to let me know you’ve been here. I look over my stats all the time, and I know there are more people visiting than commenting. I’m not hurt by that – I’m a secret stalker for many other blogs, and sometimes I read my favorite blogs and don’t have anything to say.

But I do love me some comments. Seeing that e-mail pop up telling me I have a new comment on a post is like getting another fix of my favorite drug. When I get a lot of comments, I’m downright giddy.

You don’t have to be witty, or funny, or philosophical. A simple “Hi!” works fine. Anonymous is cool, too. (Spammers and trolls excluded, of course.)

Or if you want a reason to comment, answer me this question:


You have discovered one lonely cookie left in a bag. It’s your favorite type of cookie. Do you:

A. give it to your child
B. share it with your child or…
C. turn the TV on and hide out in the kitchen so your kid doesn’t see you eat the cookie?


OK, let’s see how many people are out there. I’d love to see over 50 comments. And just to add a little guilt:


PS – Want to really make me happy? There are some blog awards going on right now. And I hear there’s a Parenting blog category. And I’ve never been nominated.

Just sayin’. If you think I’m cool enough and all…